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RELATIONSHIP ADDICTION
One major addiction
facing many people because of the nature of its definition is relationship addiction or co-dependency. It is a learned dependent behavioral
condition, generally with the existence of emotional, physical and / or sexual abuse, that affects people with or related (not necessarily
“blood related” but environmentally or socially) to those having alcohol or drug, gambling, sex, food, work or other dependencies, or the
mentally ill. This unhealthy condition is learned from the abusers’ relationships and affects a
person’s ability to have a healthy relationship. Co-dependent is associated with “dysfunctional family” members or those feeling anger, shame,
fear or pain mainly because of the addiction that is “unspoken” or discussed. The person or persons addicted are in denial and don’t admit
their dependencies or problems surrounding them. And those in relationships with them adapt this type behavior as well, keeping the “status
quo” at an even keel to avoid confrontational issues and rock the boat.
Co-dependent people
repress their emotions and ignore their own needs while being compulsive caretakers for the addicts. And as a result they become “survivors.”
To help keep addictions hidden, they distance themselves from the addict as well as the problems associated with the addiction, and certain
behaviors develop over time.
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